What Is happiness? Everyone wants to be happy. And everyone defines happiness differently.
But are you aware that the relationships and bonding of the human tribe are slowly drifting apart? Friends and family do not see each other as often as before.
Sadly to say, this phenomenal is happening in every corner of the world.
We live in a digitized world where technological advances are making an impact in shifting the way we live our lives.
A simple example would be the mobile phone. It was invented to ease communication so that we can easily keep in touch with the people around us.
But due to its convenience, people don’t see the need to go out and meet up anymore.
Well my friends, it’s high time for us all to rekindle the interpersonal relationships that are slowly fading.
One of the most important ingredients to promote happiness is being able to have the luxury of experiencing a sense of belonging, closeness, and gratitude with the people you care about.
Imagine what happens when everyone starts planting the seeds of happiness and inspire others with this wonderful action which I call ‘ The Happiness Tradition’.
It only takes one person to start. And that person is YOU. Start from your inner circle, home and office alike.
Let’s explore some of the ideas and I’ll be sharing with you my experience too.
Start The Morning With TLC (Tender, Love, Care)
This is a happy way to start the day. Wake up a bit earlier and set the table ready with delicious breakfast.
Just a simple toast and a cup of coffee or warm milk are good enough to give your family a great start ahead.
My experience: When my boys were young, I had to prepare them breakfast and drive them to school every morning.
There were times when getting myself out of bed was like lifting a big rock out from the ocean bed… hahaha, you know what I mean?
Luckily for me, I have a wonderful husband. He often volunteered to take over the morning chores. And with the morning hour jam, commuting to school, then my office took us over an hour ride.
It may be a small kind gesture on his part but definitely a big relief for me. I am so grateful of the TLCs he shower on us.
Place Happy Notes Around The House
How can one not smile and give you a big hug with an awesome piece of happy note specially dedicated to them?
Try to scribble something nice or write something funny. Give a boost to someone with motivational words.
If you don’t like to write, how about expressing your messages through drawings and paste it on the toilet mirror. Be creative.
My experience: We started out placing sticky notes at the cabinet doors to remind us of things that need to be done. For example, pay the bills, pick up the groceries, buy dog food and a bunch of stuff like that.
And later (not sure when), we included some simple sketches like heart shapes, smileys as well as nice wordings like “I love you”, “you’re awesome”, “today is your big day” etc.
This is really a mood booster and I really love being greeted by all these happy notes.
Fill Your Souls With Good Music
Pick some good music and dance along with your spouse. If you’re not in the mood for some slow dance, why not do some crazy moves with more upbeat tunes?
This will surely bring a lot of laughter into the home. No one needs to be so uptight and serious all the time.
My experience: We did this before but that was really long ago. Can’t remember exactly when was the last time we danced. Those were really happy moments. Hmm…I think I have to plan something soon 🙂
Always Bring A Small Gift Every Time You Visit Your Parents
Happiness tradition starts from home. When you were young, do you remember how your parents pampered you with sweets, toys and little gifts even if it wasn’t your birthday?
Now that we all have wings and fly away from our nest, it is good to always bring home a worm when we fly back, no matter how big or small. It’s the thought that counts.
Visit your parents as often as you can. Your visits mean a lot to them. The next time you go home, bring them little gifts like a small cake, some fresh corns you bought from the supermarket or a nice story book.
Most of all, bring them your heart and love.
My experience: I have to admit that my hubby is more thoughtful than I am. My parents are staying with my brother and his family which is the culture of the Chinese.
Often times, my hubby would buy something like biscuits, cookies, fruits etc for my parents and my brother’s family especially the little ones.
You can imagine how much the kids love seeing us there 🙂
Say Something Nice And Exchange Smile
It does not cost a dime to say something nice. Be generous with your compliments. But of course, you have to mean what you say.
Don’t make things up and force yourself into saying something like “Hey, you look great today!” when she obviously look pale and sick.
Another way to spread good vibes is to congratulate your co-workers when they achieve target or accomplish a big project.
Give words of encouragement. Let them know you appreciate their effort and hard work. Celebrate the achievement together.
My experience: I frequently bump into this girl at my office’s basement carpark. We always smile and say “hi”, every time we see each other. And soon after, a new friendship is formed.
Bring More Food To Share With Colleagues
When you bring food from home or buy from outside, always have some extra to be shared among your colleagues. This is a real happy booster and it helps build a stronger rapport.
My experience: We have some kitchen appliances like microwave oven, coffee maker, steamer, etc in the office pantry. Once a while, we would do a small potluck during lunch.
Each of us brings some food and enjoy a delicious, simple meal together. There is always so much involvement from everyone. Great conversations and laughter filling up the office space.
Do not forget to invite your boss to join in the fun 🙂
Have you been instilling a happiness tradition in your family and work? If you’ve not, why not pick one from the above ideas and start today?
Enjoy the process and see how your life transform. You’ll be happier as you grow a better relationship with people around you.