I am not a stay at home mom. I have a full-time job which I love. How about you? Are you currently a working mom, like me, working outside your home? You hold a job you love (or maybe not so love) and you need the paycheck.
Sometimes you feel a little guilty leaving your child behind with the caregiver. More so if she cries, pulling onto your skirt begging you not to go…phew…this is hard. Have you had such a situation?
A few months ago, I stumbled upon my ex-colleague. She left the corporate world to be a stay at home mom with her kids. Obviously, she’s a happier person now. She looks radiant, more relaxed and beaming with joy. She’s enjoying every moment of being a stay at home mom. It was a right decision for her.
The bonding of a mother and child starts in the womb to the moment the baby is born continuing all the way to adulthood and eventually last until old age even when the mother was not around anymore. How amazing, ya?
Being a stay at home mom gives you more opportunities and obviously more time to connect and build the bonding between mother and child even stronger. There are many types of research pointing to how bonding affects child development in terms of self-esteem, confidence and intelligence level, emotional competency and much more.
As a mom, I’m sure you noticed how your child behaved differently every time when you are home with her. She seems happier, more cheerful and talkative too. She happily chats with you, plays around with the pet, giggling away and proudly singing ‘Twinkle, twinkle little stars’ the whole morning, even though those are just a few words she knows..so cute 🙂
And sometimes depending on her mood, she may purposely do something naughty just to seek your attention. Kids nowadays are really smart. While you are devoted to giving your best to her, she, on the other hand, gives you the best motherhood you deserved too. In her own innocent ways, of course…haha.
You have hugs and kisses, laughter, cuteness and you have tantrums, scolding and sleepless nights. It all comes in an awesomely big package filled with lots of unimaginable surprises! How can we moms not wonder what’s going on in their little minds?
But one thing you know for sure, all these little actions is a way of them telling you how much they love you and enjoy having you home with them, don’t you agree?
It was just like yesterday when my kids were little. It’s kind of scary how fast time flies. Although they are all grown up now, sometimes bringing myself back to memory lane still gives me those magical moments which I truly treasure.
My husband always reminds me of how blessed we are to be able to spend so much quality time with them especially during those tender years, considering both of us work full time.
We are always with them whenever we are not working. And we took leaves from work to attend all their school events like sports days, concerts, prize-giving days as well as graduation days. Let me tell you this, every moment is just so special, every experience so unique. If you missed it, the moment is gone forever. The next time, it won’t be the same anymore.
So if you’re thinking about transitioning to work from home, I encourage you to take the plunge.
Unlike those days, the internet was not easily available in my country. Opportunity to work from home was scarce and online jobs were almost as good as non-existent. Being a stay at home mom literally means no income on my part and we just couldn’t afford it.
It is different now. The internet is indispensable. Look at the abundance of information you can easily get online. That’s why more and more people are working remotely.
Do some research online to see what options are available. When you work from home, you are mostly self-reliant. While not every work from home job is suitable for your situation or knowledge level, it is important to understand the prerequisites and sign up for courses which you think will enhance your skills in the chosen field.
Start by doing part time and gradually transition into working full-time from home when you are ready. What are some of the important aspects you may want to consider before taking the leap? This article may give you some pointers.
The recent catching-up with my ex-colleague inspired me to write this post. It took her some time to finally take on the role of a stay at home mom.
You may have all these thoughts too but I want you to know that it’s okay if you’re not ready to make the transition. Every family’s situation is different. Like me, it took me so long to finally work at it.
At the end of the day, what we are working at today is to build a better tomorrow for our loved ones. Take pride in how you choose to raise your family. Good luck wonderful moms!
Love, Mei N